There's a post elsewhere that has comments that are making me itchy. So I'll do a little scratching here, although it likely won't be enough.
There are plenty of horrible stories in the scriptures, especially in the Old Testament. I realized that I needed a "disturbing" tag in my digital scriptures because that was the only appropriate thing to say about too many stories. There are many reasons why those stories are there, and I think in general that we usually can see that things have changed, or that people behaved badly in the past, or whatever.
But those stories make us nervous, so we ignore them (how many Sunday School discussions have you had about the daughter of Japheth, or the daughters of Onitah, or the unnamed concubine of Judges 19?), or, worse, try to find some sort of higher meaning in them. Some even go so far as to use the Bible or justify their own horrible behavior, although I don't think that's typical.
Instead we need to talk about those stories and why they're wrong. Don't dash past Tamar and her response to Amnom before and after he rapes her. Don't try to make the abduction of the daughters of the Lamanites a commendable story of forgiveness on the part of the women. Don't tell me that Jesus thought slavery was acceptable. These stories tell us a lot more about history and culture than they do about the gospel, so don't try to make me feel good about them. Instead let's talk about why those things are unacceptable today.
One other reason why I feel strongly about this is that some of the unacceptable-to-me cultural traditions in the Bible aren't so unacceptable in some parts of the world today. I don't need to see bride kidnapping portrayed as excusable because apparently some women end up happy, thank you very much.