The whole mess with Penn State is really bothering me, probably because I'm tying it all up in my head with bride kidnapping here. A lot of my husband's research is focused on kidnapping (not because it's kidnapping, but because it's one of the many "disputes" here that isn't taken care of in court even though a state law is broken) and we've talked about it for hours and hours and hours (and I'm sleepy because of all those hours spent talking).
The connection might not be obvious, but what the
Penn State mess (and please don't call it a sex scandal because it is
about child abuse) boils down to is too many people didn't go to the
police when they saw or knew of a violent and awful crime being
committed. Nope, they just covered it all up and went on with their
merry football lives. Anyone who feels sorry for Joe Paterno right now
ought to remember that if he'd only made sure this went to the police 10
or 15 or 20 years ago and fired what's-his-bucket right then instead
of just having him resign and burying his head about the fact that he
had access to young kids all the time, things wouldn't be anywhere near
as bad for his football program right now, not to mention the kids that
wouldn't have been molested.
There are too many times where people don't call the police or
turn someone in because it's financially or socially risky to do so. If
you see someone lighting a fire in the basement of an apartment
building you don't call your boss and wonder what to do. You call the
police (or I hope you do). If you see a child getting molested, you
should call the police. The risk to the people in the apartment
building or to the child is much greater than your potential risk. It's
However, I know it's not always so simple. It's against the
Kyrgyzstan criminal code to kidnap a bride and has been for quite a few
years. It appears that no man has *ever* been convicted for kidnapping
even though more than half of all marriages in Kyrgyzstan are a result
of kidnapping. Even though there is a law and people do have access to
the courts, there are other significant, hugely significant, pressures
playing against women who might want to take their kidnapper to court.
In short, women don't take their kidnappers to court because there is a
great deal of pressure not to. Did the same thing happen at Penn State?
And if it did, what does that say about football and money and power in
And I have more to say about this, but it will have to wait for another day. Because it is time to make dinner.